People pleaser, party of one?
Hi, my name is Candice and I have a problem with people pleasing.
I'm really struggling with this. I've been struggling with this for years if I'm honest.
These past few months, I've really been trying to limit myself. I can't do it all, I can't be all things to all people. I can't sign up for everything, do everything, be everywhere. I just can't! I've tried to that before and I end up dropping the ball somewhere. Finding that balance is, I'm sure, what all Moms, or really all adults, face. How do you know when to say no and when to say yes? Well in the past, my answer was to say yes to everything. Why not? It makes people happy when you do things for them, it makes them like you and think you are a good person. Of course I'm going to say yes!
The problem with all of that was, that I was saying yes to everyone else, and in turn, I ended up saying no to my own home. My own family. I can't do that with you because I have to do this right now. I can't take you to that because I have to be here. I was really slacking on my job because I was doing someone else's job.
Lightbulb.
Time to stop! But how am I supposed to know what to say yes to and what to say no to? God. and not just saying that because its the Sunday school answer. He is the answer. I need to be so consumed and wrapped up in Him that He is able to lead my decisions. No decision is too small, either. Its it cool that God cares about the stuff we care about. I wouldn't think that God would care about what sport I sign Brad up for, but He does, and He has a say about it! I wouldn't think that God would care how much I get up to the kids' And He gives me a peace when I am making the right choice and a conviction when I'm not. Its so awesome to know that I don't have to maneuver this crazy life by myself. WHY OH WHY have I tried for years to do that? Why did I think that I have to take everyone's problems on my shoulders along with my own and try to figure everything out?!?!
I am being freed through my struggle of people pleasing. Its not one of the "big struggles" you hear people talking about like alcohol, drugs, ect. But its the big struggle in my life, and just as God is faithful in all the "big" things, He is just as faithful in the "small stuff." Because God has given me this life, He has orchestrated all these things, good and bad, to work for my good and His glory, and He's not gonna leave me hanging now.
Thank you Lord, thank you thank you thank you.
"I am redeemed. You set me free. So I'll shake off these heavy chains, wipe away every stain. Cause I'm not who I used to be. I am redeemed."
For those of you who actually read this, lol I feel loved. Thanks for listening to my ramblings, welcome to my cyber diary ;-)
Love always, Candi
I'm really struggling with this. I've been struggling with this for years if I'm honest.
These past few months, I've really been trying to limit myself. I can't do it all, I can't be all things to all people. I can't sign up for everything, do everything, be everywhere. I just can't! I've tried to that before and I end up dropping the ball somewhere. Finding that balance is, I'm sure, what all Moms, or really all adults, face. How do you know when to say no and when to say yes? Well in the past, my answer was to say yes to everything. Why not? It makes people happy when you do things for them, it makes them like you and think you are a good person. Of course I'm going to say yes!
The problem with all of that was, that I was saying yes to everyone else, and in turn, I ended up saying no to my own home. My own family. I can't do that with you because I have to do this right now. I can't take you to that because I have to be here. I was really slacking on my job because I was doing someone else's job.
Lightbulb.
Time to stop! But how am I supposed to know what to say yes to and what to say no to? God. and not just saying that because its the Sunday school answer. He is the answer. I need to be so consumed and wrapped up in Him that He is able to lead my decisions. No decision is too small, either. Its it cool that God cares about the stuff we care about. I wouldn't think that God would care about what sport I sign Brad up for, but He does, and He has a say about it! I wouldn't think that God would care how much I get up to the kids' And He gives me a peace when I am making the right choice and a conviction when I'm not. Its so awesome to know that I don't have to maneuver this crazy life by myself. WHY OH WHY have I tried for years to do that? Why did I think that I have to take everyone's problems on my shoulders along with my own and try to figure everything out?!?!
I am being freed through my struggle of people pleasing. Its not one of the "big struggles" you hear people talking about like alcohol, drugs, ect. But its the big struggle in my life, and just as God is faithful in all the "big" things, He is just as faithful in the "small stuff." Because God has given me this life, He has orchestrated all these things, good and bad, to work for my good and His glory, and He's not gonna leave me hanging now.
Thank you Lord, thank you thank you thank you.
"I am redeemed. You set me free. So I'll shake off these heavy chains, wipe away every stain. Cause I'm not who I used to be. I am redeemed."
For those of you who actually read this, lol I feel loved. Thanks for listening to my ramblings, welcome to my cyber diary ;-)
Love always, Candi
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