Bad Day
I don't even know what to do with Brad. He has become such a handful and I feel like I've tried every techinique I know to get him to behave. He obviosly has a problem. ADHD, I dunno, but there is an issue that keeps him from being able to be still and focus. It is so FRUSTRATING! Its like his mind won't stop, won't let him just sit still or lay down to take a nap. I've seen signs of him being slightly different than other kids his age, but I just thought, every child is different, so its no problem. Well that's completely true... until is becomes a problem. Being in a classroom with 20 other kids that aren't all the same but similar, and your child is still the one who is different... yeah that's a problem. When it begins to interfere with lessons and activites in school, its a problem. When you tell your child the same rule EVERY DAY and EVERY DAY he breaks that rule, that's a problem.
All I know is I'm out of ideas. Rewards, punishments, praising good behavior, allowing him to make choices, giving examples through other children, through adults.... I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like getting on to him all the time is making his miserable. He probably thinks that he is a bad kid, or that I don't love him like I love Grace because she doesn't get in trouble as much as he does. The idea of making my sweet boy feel bad about himself in any way breaks my heart. I want my children to know that I love them all the time, no matter what they do. I think they are both amazing, and want them to like themselves. But constantly getting on to him for behavior has got to affect him.
So now what? What can I do? Pull him out of school and away from his new friends so that he won't be different? Put him on medicine to "fix" him? Keep going on the way we are and pray to God that his behavior gets better. And if it doesn't, feel like this all the time? Not to mention, lets add another baby to the mix. Brad is going to get all the attention because he is "different". The new baby is going to get attention because its a baby, and then my sweet Gracie is left behind.
I am obviously overwhelemed today with my children. Lord help me, please.
All I know is I'm out of ideas. Rewards, punishments, praising good behavior, allowing him to make choices, giving examples through other children, through adults.... I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like getting on to him all the time is making his miserable. He probably thinks that he is a bad kid, or that I don't love him like I love Grace because she doesn't get in trouble as much as he does. The idea of making my sweet boy feel bad about himself in any way breaks my heart. I want my children to know that I love them all the time, no matter what they do. I think they are both amazing, and want them to like themselves. But constantly getting on to him for behavior has got to affect him.
So now what? What can I do? Pull him out of school and away from his new friends so that he won't be different? Put him on medicine to "fix" him? Keep going on the way we are and pray to God that his behavior gets better. And if it doesn't, feel like this all the time? Not to mention, lets add another baby to the mix. Brad is going to get all the attention because he is "different". The new baby is going to get attention because its a baby, and then my sweet Gracie is left behind.
I am obviously overwhelemed today with my children. Lord help me, please.
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